People always say love is the biggest criterion in every relationship, but the question “Is love enough?” Keeps arising in debates and it’s not hard to see why. Many cheaters claim to truly love the very partner they have wronged, and usually, we doubt their sincerity. After all, loving someone means maintaining a certain level of trust, honor, and commitment, right?

Being committed requires our mental recognition and acceptance of what we’re in for. To be loved and to love is a daily effort we should strive for. Cheating is the order of the day but you can still choose to be deeply committed and faithful to the one you love. Text that special someone today, every single act of love counts.

Researchers have found that love operates as a motivation and reward system in the brain, The problem is that romantic love isn’t the only brain system that is activated when we fall for someone. There are actually three brain systems related to love, There’s the sex drive, which is like an “intolerable neural itch,” to get us out searching for a range of partners to help pass on our genes. There’s romantic love, which helps us focus our mating energy on one person. And then there’s attachment, the calm and security we feel with a long-term partner so we can raise children with them as a team.

However, those three brain systems, sex drive, romantic love, and attachment, aren’t always connected to each other.

So it’s possible to feel deep attachment to a long-term partner at the same time you feel intense romantic love toward someone else and even also feel sexual attraction toward another person. In short, we’re capable of loving more than one person at a time, that’s why; some people may cheat on their partner.

We limit the act to physical encounters but most infidelities don’t leap to the physical. No one suddenly jumps to bed with another, certain things must have occurred to work its way up to the physical point. There were indiscretions overlooked, ignored or somehow excused until the inevitable. The extra Dm on twitter, the inappropriate likes on a Facebook picture you had no business viewing in the first place, or the hey, how have you been- message to an ex, even though you are in a new relationship. There is also the real life: the extra flirtatious laugh, touch, joke, or suggestion you give or overlook from a person of interest. You entice each other playfully until that invisible line between flirtatiously innocent suggestions and outright deceitful action blurs beyond recognition.